Tuesday, August 17, 2004
the second-worst thing...
...anyone ever said to me was "You are so judgemental! Judge! Judge! Judge!"
Actually, it was more like they screamed it at me. This was about 10 years ago. I had recently come out, so it's hard for me to imagine myself as applying excessive scrutiny to others.
I guess maybe that sometimes, in some ways, I can be judgemental. I kinda prefer "doesn't suffer fools gladly" as my pal Heather once wrote in a Friendster testimonial about me.
I think I've always had an open mind, and probably my biggest complaint about other people is them not having the same. But having "Judge! Judge! Judge!" screamed at me certainly made an impression, and I've tried even harder since then to give the benefit of the doubt, the second chance (and third and fourth) and so on.
But this last weekend I found myself in two positions of judgement: at a talent show and a chili cook-off. And I thoroughly enjoyed myself.
I can't sit through or stomach American Idol, The Swan, The Grammys or any of the other horrific judge-fests that our society has gone bonkers for. But when it comes to chili and acts such as two dudes in bunny suits performing Phil Collins' "In the Air Tonight" while a guy in a Batman outfiit does an interpretive dance, I am definitely ready and willing to pass judgement.
Just the fact that I found myself in these two judegement positions within 24 hours of each other made me almost want to call the person from 10 years ago and say, "You were right. HA!!!!!"
But this is one of those situations where I know the truth about me, and that's plenty good enough.
Actually, it was more like they screamed it at me. This was about 10 years ago. I had recently come out, so it's hard for me to imagine myself as applying excessive scrutiny to others.
I guess maybe that sometimes, in some ways, I can be judgemental. I kinda prefer "doesn't suffer fools gladly" as my pal Heather once wrote in a Friendster testimonial about me.
I think I've always had an open mind, and probably my biggest complaint about other people is them not having the same. But having "Judge! Judge! Judge!" screamed at me certainly made an impression, and I've tried even harder since then to give the benefit of the doubt, the second chance (and third and fourth) and so on.
But this last weekend I found myself in two positions of judgement: at a talent show and a chili cook-off. And I thoroughly enjoyed myself.
I can't sit through or stomach American Idol, The Swan, The Grammys or any of the other horrific judge-fests that our society has gone bonkers for. But when it comes to chili and acts such as two dudes in bunny suits performing Phil Collins' "In the Air Tonight" while a guy in a Batman outfiit does an interpretive dance, I am definitely ready and willing to pass judgement.
Just the fact that I found myself in these two judegement positions within 24 hours of each other made me almost want to call the person from 10 years ago and say, "You were right. HA!!!!!"
But this is one of those situations where I know the truth about me, and that's plenty good enough.
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